Remembering to Love Our Children
It’s 6 o’clock in the morning. My husband and I are trying to grab those last few minutes of sleep before the alarm clock signals that it’s time to start our day. I am awakened by the pitter patter of little feet coming down the hallway, and I know that in just a few seconds, one of my little ones is going to come and crawl into bed with me for their morning snuggle. As if sensing that snuggles are being given out in her absence, the other child usually follows in short order.
I love morning snuggle time. It’s the best part of the day with the children because everyone is fresh from a good night’s sleep, we haven’t begun our day of playing, schooling, housework, or errand running. I haven’t yet gotten frustrated because they are not doing their work, or half doing the work I’ve assigned them.
It’s just that time of day for us to talk and enjoy each other’s company. It’s the time of day with lots of hugs and kisses. During this time, I marvel at their smallness, their little hands, their little ears, the softness of their skin. I breathe in their scent, hoping that I’ll remember it when they have grown up and left the house.
If we’re in a rush trying to get out of the house and we skip our snuggle time, the children will always remind me later that they missed their morning kisses.
As parents, it’s so easy to get caught up in day-to-day life that we forget to give those hugs and kisses to our children. Whether we work outside the home or whether we are with them all day, it is so easy to lose sight of the fact that we only have a few years to give morning hugs and kisses. Indeed, while he will not miss out on his morning kisses, after about 10 o’clock, my son is pretty much done with kisses from his mama. Any other attempt to sneak a kiss is rebuffed. So, if I miss my window of opportunity, I get no morning, afternoon, or evening kisses from my oldest.
My youngest is always up for hugs and kisses from her mama, but I know that at some point, I won’t have the opportunity to hold her either.
And so the advice that I give to all parents is not to lose site of the fact that you have your children for such a short time. Please don’t forget to take the opportunity, every day, to love on them. For that time is fleeting and when it’s over, it will be gone, never to return again.